Lauren Conrad talks with Jilly Hendrix about online dating on ‘Asking For A Friend’

Courtesy: Jilly Hendrix

Dating: Love & Lust All Around

Dating, it’s one of the many sports, chores, envies, leisurely, and thrilling activities that we have 50/50 love and hate for, there’s no clear definition on how dating’s executed, but everyone has their own expectations when finding our soulmate, our equal or opposite, and even a hookup when the clock strikes midnight, and your hormones go the opposite route of a pumpkin whether it’s in a bar or a club (both got drinking involved), we’re sometimes pros at dating and know what we want, others just go about it the Charlie Brown way so to speak, then people close to us remind us of boundaries we can’t cross, and that’s how we learn to respect each other so we can try to be better daters here on in, but we all have one thing in common, expectation or going with the flow, we want love, we want attention, and we want companionship, but we gotta start somewhere, that’s where Lauren Conrad came in on Wednesday with her latest episode of “Asking For A Friend” with Lauren interviewing longtime friend, Jilly Hendrix, who lays down the law of online dating.

Of all the sea of dating apps that have popped up over the last 12 to 15 years, whether their beginnings are from a website way back when, or have spun off into addendums to find more fish in the sea, Lauren’s friend, Jilly, reminds us to proceed with caution when meeting someone online as opposed to the original form of setting up a date being in person within our travels through real life, always set up a safe and secure indoor meeting place where there’s people around you like a coffee house, restaurant, bar, etc.; and it’s always good to update your profile being your pictures or how you describe yourself now, because we like to date people of what they are now, not of 5 years ago.

We all pick our tortures, and we try to be as polite as possible, but if you’re sitting through a bad date, and your psychic vibes start kicking in the wrong way about a guy, then you don’t have to sit through that date, you can back out of it by coming up with an excuse, no harm or foul done.

The biggest thing we hate to do, or even experience with heartbreak thereafter is lead people on (or be led on), it’s even harder if you haven’t dated up in your life and lack the necessary experience to deal with such emotional pain, Jilly recommends 2 ways to politely break it off with someone if you don’t feel good vibes with a guy, either you don’t respond after awhile, or you politely write and say that you weren’t feeling it and that it’s not gonna work, try to avoid storybook explanations if you have to either on your end or the guy’s end about breaking it off.

There’s such a thing as good stalking according to Jilly, just as long as you’re smart about it, always make sure you’re logged off your Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, and so forth to see how someone’s doing without them knowing your finding out more about them, and it’s also good to keep someone in your circle for future possibilities even though you may not be ready for that one guy or a commitment right now.

There’s lots of dating apps out there, but there’s one dating app you never knew could work says Jilly, it’s Instagram, where all you have to do is just DM someone and ask them out, and it does wonders for your dating life.

Daniel Quintanilla